20 Qualities That Must Be Present In The Person You Want To Marry

Your success and happiness after wedding would depend on the type of person you chose to marry. Here are 20 qualities you should look for in the person you are planning to marry:

Shares your beliefs
Regardless if you believe in Satan or sprinkles, your partner
should have respect for your views. Believing in the same
things — like Beyoncé as a religion, or coffee as a morning
non-negotiable — brings you two closer.
Teaches you something new
Life together will be pretty boring if you can’t learn from each
other. It can be a lesson as small as how to bake chocolate
chip cookies with Oreos stuffed in the middle (this has actually
turned out to be an important life skill), or something more
substantial, like how to use chopsticks properly. For me, this
means he’s well-versed in politics and will give me the
Sparknotes version of White House current events. Let’s also
not forget there’s an inherent good feeling when you teach
someone a new fact or skill.
Trusts you (and is trustworthy him or herself)
If you feel the need to raid your partner’s cell phone, you’re
basically displaying your distrust for him or her — what good
is a relationship like that? Once you start prying into each
other’s phones, all faith goes out the window and every text is
grounds for an argument.
Bottom line: If you go digging for sh*t, you’re gonna smell it.
Appreciates staying in together
Every couple needs quality time — just make sure your
definition of “quality time” is the same as your partner’s. Going
out and socializing as a duo is always fun, but it’s equally
important that your partner can curl up next to you for an
intimate night in. Sometimes, the most magical moments are
the ones we take the time to slow down and enjoy with the
person who’s right in front of us. No audience necessary.
Makes you a better person
You want someone who brings out your best self. A great way
tell if you and your partner should tie the knot is by honestly
asking yourself, “Does this person make me better?”
Entertains inside jokes
No, I’m not talking about how you both love to crack up while
watching the “Afternoon Delight” scene in “Anchorman.” I’m
talking about the kind of inside joke, where all you have to do
is give the other person a certain look and it instantly sends
you both into a laughing fit. You are both so on the same page
that the joke doesn’t need to be explained; your partner just
gets it.
Does not place restrictions on you or the relationship
The person you marry shouldn’t give you ultimatums like, “I
won’t date you until you get a promotion,” or “If you go out
with your friends, I’ll break up with you.” There shouldn’t be
rules to your relationship that prohibit you from doing certain
things or hold you back from being who you are.
He can’t prevent you from wearing your crop top to the bar
(although, it is very flattering when he gets jealous like that).
Likewise, she can’t stop you from playing video games before
bed (that is, unless she’s not wearing any clothes…).
Compromises
Compromise is the key to any successful relationship; we’ve
been taught this since kindergarten. Do I love going to Phish
concerts and listening to 20-minute guitar riffs? No, but I’ll
make it my mission to enjoy myself and do it anyway (for the
drugs, mostly). And I’m sure he doesn’t like being dragged to
see weird indie films, but I’ll buy the popcorn and soda and
toss in a Xanax because I’m nice like that.
Respects your family
Notice how I don’t use the word “likes” here; although, that’s
always a plus. This also goes for both sets of friends.
Satisfies in bed
If you can’t please your partner in bed, chances are, he or she
is gonna look for that satisfaction elsewhere. Being satisfied in
the sack goes beyond pleasure; it means you two are also
sexually comfortable with one another. When it comes to
matters in the bedroom, you and your partner should keep an
open dialogue.
Maintains a healthy relationship with alcohol and
socializing
If your partner can’t handle drinking or social situations, then
you’ll either: A) Have to accept the role of the occasional
babysitter, or B) Pass on it altogether. (Shout out to my future
hubby!) Drinking Jameson and crying at the bar afterwards is
kind of a deal-breaker — same with getting violent, Chris
Brown.
Loves your flaws
True confession: I love not wearing pants. If you don’t love that
about me, then we probably aren’t meant to be together. The
person you marry should, of course, play up your strengths,
but also appreciate your imperfections. It might sound trite,
but it’s your quirks that make you… You.
Gives you well-deserved compliments
So sue us for wanting the person we love to tell us we’re
beautiful and perfect and incredible and smart and the best
person on the planet?
Seriously, though, you don’t need to shower us in flattery, but
when we’ve spent all day researching the perfect lingerie,
hearing that we look “sexier than Rihanna in her ‘Pour It Up’
video,” is always well-received.
(Yes, patrons in the comments section, these are my daddy
issues talking — you’ve totally figured me out.)
Shares the same values
Someone who is materialistic and enjoys splurging on
extravagances probably won’t last very long with someone
who is down-to-earth and likes to rough it. This is why
celebrities marry other celebrities***.
(***The reason they don’t last very long, though, is completely
unrelated to this list.)
Stays faithful
This seems fairly obvious; although, you’d be surprised at how
many people are more and more accepting of the fact that
their spouses will cheat at least once in their relationship.
I am not one of those people. Don’t f*cking cheat on me, or I’ll
break up with you… And then cut off your balls because I
assume you have none in order to do that to a person.
(Smiles.)
Displays intelligence
Smart people don’t suck. They also offer insightful advice and
help you make good choices. Your spouse doesn’t have to be a
college graduate. We’re referring to the kind of partner who
innately possesses that brand of sage intelligence.
Appeases your attraction (whatever that means to you)
Because you’re going to be spending the better part of your life
with this person, it’s mildly crucial that you also feel connected
to him or her. I happen to be fond of older, hairy men. And I’m
pretty sure that sounds attractive to no one but myself.
Partakes in various hobbies
They don’t have to be the same hobbies as yours (see #8
‘Compromises’), so long as your partner has other ways of
fulfilling him or herself, aside from banging you and then
cuddling on repeat. Whether that means frequenting museums
or watching viral videos, your partner should have other
interests outside of your relationship.
Bonus points if by “hobby,” you also mean “grubbing.”
Shares in your vision for the future
Hopefully you’re both in it.
Delivers unconditional love
Unconditional love is kind of like the Olive Garden: When you’re
there, you’re family..